“So, what do you do for a living?”
The job we do defines us. Like it or not. It ranks in the top 3 questions you are always asked when meeting new people.
Attend a party, go out socially, or attend a networking event someone you don’t know will saunter over to ask:
“What’s your name?”
“Are you from around here / where are you from?”
“So…. what do you do for a living?”
Great if you love your job. But it’s a different world if you find your work unfulfilling.
You can’t just tell the person to mind their own damn business – it’s rude (even if that’s what you are thinking).
You’re not likely to spill your heart out to this stranger about how your job is really sucking out your soul and how every morning you wake up with a feeling of dread that this is it for you…. your life is being wasted being stuck in this job.
Instead, you look down at the floor and give that rehearsed line you’ve used so many times before to try to make what you do sound meaningful and hope the stranger does not spot that you cannot find any meaning anymore in what you do. You feel like an amoeba.
If this sounds like a familiar scenario, you are in the right place. Here’s some other options of what you can do to avoid answering the question you hate without becoming a social recluse.
- Throw your drink straight in their face. Oops, no. Hang on. That’s what you want to do. So instead, down your drink (get rid of the temptation!) and politely deflect – “Hey, I work to live – let me tell you something great I love doing in my spare time.”
- Lie. Make something up and tell them about a really obscure but cool job you might do that will make them feel their job is dull, and spin the question straight back at them. “I work for an intelligence service connected to submarines, I’m so sorry I cannot disclose details, but I’d love to hear about what you do for a living – I mean, what was the most exciting thing that happened in your world of work this week?”
- Ditch the job that’s making you feel this way and find a job you love, so that you’ll be going up to strangers ON PURPOSE because you want them to ask you all about it. You, a PSPS! A proud, sassy party socialite!!
What we do in life is part of who we are. We cannot change the fact that our actions define us. If what we do for our living does not align with our passions and values, our work will not make us happy.
Would you like to discover your true work passions and find a job you’ll love?
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